You see, my recent dating adventure has made me think.
I have realised that often the main reason, why relationships fail in their early stages is because people don't talk about their sexual preferences before they jump into bed together.
Now, I recently met this really nice guy, and we got on so well together. We went for meals, for walks in the countryside, on a night out...we held hands...and then he asked:
"What do you like in bed?"
I responded with an embarrassed giggle despite my age, but I did manage to come up with some suggestions on how he could make me happy in bed.
And then it was his turn to tell me...
Saying that I was disappointed would be an understatement.
Needless to say we realised that despite enjoying each other's company on a social level, we were sexually incompatible.
*Sigh*
At least I found out before anything else happened, and I learned a useful lesson in the process.
Until this moment, I had naively assumed that when you are attracted to each other and get on well together, everything will work fine in the bedroom department, too.
Wrong.
It might be embarrassing, strange or awkward, but it is important to talk about sex with your date before it happens, if you feel it's going into that direction.
Especially women need to overcome their shyness and be open and frank about it, otherwise they will just get hurt.
It's all well and good enjoying each other's company, but sexual compatibility is equally important, otherwise the relationship won't last long.
So, here's my advice:
find out about what the other likes in bed before you let them close. This way you save yourself a lot of heartache.
This is something I hadn't thought about. Good article.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Nike. Believe me, there is so much you need to think about when you re-enter the dating scene :)
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